For Boston

As many of you know, I have been a life-long Medium. I do not charge for any readings and I do not like to demonstrate those abilities in a “circus like” fashion, keeping quiet for the most part. I have worked on some cold cases, and have also done some genealogical research with a Historical Researcher, utilizing my abilities to help locate family members both deceased and alive. To-date, the researcher has 2 confirmed DNA matches, based on information I have given him from readings.

About this story…

Everyone who has come to me for a reading has been by reference through a friend, or someone whom I’ve helped over time. Helping those who grieve is what matters most to me. Simply said, I cannot put a price on that.

This past Saturday, an acquaintance of mine located in Upstate New York, had contacted me and asked me if I was picking up on anything unusual around her due to a situation that is transpiring in the Watervliet community. Already uneasy about something, I told her that I would wait a few days and get back to her on Monday, or Tuesday. This initial contact was established via Facebook.

Sunday night into Monday morning, I established spirit contact with a priest. I woke up and recorded the communication in my dream diary. It was approximately 6:20AM. In light of the severity of the communication, I digested things, had coffee coffee and went back to the dream diary at approximately 9:12 am, when I was a little more awake. The dates and times are available as recorded via the dream diary.

I also began to message my acquaintance in New York (about the spirit communication) at approximately 9:51AM, once I had finished recording the dream. The date and time stamps are printed out and saved, as well as are available via Facebook messaging, for reference.

As stated, the spirit who contacted me was a priest. He was associated with my friend in a very bonded, familial type of way. He gave me very specific details. I had no idea about she and her family’s relationship with this priest.

Via Facebook, I asked my friend several questions and also advised her that there was a very strong warning associated with this. I told her as much as there was a lot of good that came through, there was a lot of evil. There was a serious warning.

Throughout the late morning, she kept in contact with me and answered my questions. I was very concerned about who the priest was, by which we determined was the late Father Dominic “Emery” Parillo. Father Parillo had been her priest in Watervliet, N.Y., for several years. He was very close to her family and had baptized her young daughter back in 2006.

Many of the details that I recorded in my dream diary were validated by my friend (all prior to the Boston bombings). The one question that remained was; why was father Parillo giving the warning? It seemed more global versus personal, as in relationship to my friend.

The fact that Father Parillo showed me many things (that later took place at the Boston Marathon), I’ve spent the last two days agonizing over what to do, as he had three specific messages. One for the friend (who asked me to do the reading), another for two men (I believe to be actually family oriented). The third message was for his “home” community – and this is why I am sharing this with you.

As the diary details are recorded, and as my memory recalls very vividly with the communication, Father Parillo loved his hometown, his parish and his community, just as they loved him. The last part of his message has stuck with me, and I cannot shake it: He had me seated in front of a packed church while he conducted a very large funeral service. Again, all of this transpired and is documented prior to the events in Boston on the afternoon of Monday, April 15th, including the Facebook time and date stamp of messages between my friend and I.

Later Monday afternoon, my friend and I were able to reconnect while I was on my lunch break. It was right after the bombings had transpired; both of us were shocked. Although the warning fit the tragedy, we did not understand the relationship between Father Parillo and Boston.

I then “googled” Father Parillo, whereas I discovered the connection: Father Dominic “Emery” Parillo was born and raised in Boston, Massachusetts. He was ordained after going to university and held his first Mass at Our Lady of Mount Carmel, in east Boston. Later in his career he was transferred to Watervliet, New York, where he became the Pastor for OLoMC, in the city.

It was during this time that he became close to my friend’s family, and later baptized her daughter at St. Patrick’s Church. After retirement, he moved back to Boston where he died just last February, 2012. Father Parillo’s funeral service was held at St. Leonard’s church, in Boston. St. Leonard’s is very close to the bombing site. He was interred at Woodlawn Cemetery in Everett, MA. Once I messaged my friend with that information, she had realized that she had completely forgotten about the Boston connection

As for the message of hope and inspiration that came directly from Father Parillo, to the people at “home”:

His message was to be strong and that he loved his community and is still with them. I can tell you that this has been a life-changing situation for me. I have been shocked, and heartbroken by this tragedy, yet will always remain faithful and thankful that Father Parillo came through at the exact time when his beloved Boston would need him the most.

I don’t know what more to do to get his message out there, to his family, congregation and the city of Boston, but I will tell you that I will never forget this experience. My friend and I cried tears of pain for those who lost their lives and have been affected, as well as tears of joy for Father showing us both that he is still watching over the people of Boston, as well as those he loved, from above.

Understanding that this is a rather odd story, my dream diary is available for review, as are the messages on Facebook that have the time and date stamps which show the timeline and validate what I have shared with you. I would hope that you could relay this message to those who may have known Father Parillo, and to let everyone in Boston know that the journey DOES continue, even after after we leave the world physically. It may help to bring peace to some that are undoubtedly grappling with grief from this disaster.

Thank you.
Jill Marie Morris

Rant: Gay Conversion Therapy

Gay Conversion Therapy is pure BS. Anyone in agreement with this “practice” needs their head, heart and soul examined.

We are all HUMAN BEINGS – we are all PEOPLE! Different strokes for different folks. Just because someone is gay does not mean they aren’t a human being. I have many gay friends, and even a couple of transgender friends. They are kind, compassionate, responsible individuals whom I am proud to call friend.

Listen people; a potato is a potato regardless if it’s a French fry, baked or mashed. This conversion nonsense is like sending your mashed potatoes back to the kitchen and forcing the chef restore it to a damn potato. Some people ought to be ashamed of themselves, already.

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Be well.

Let Them Be

It can be rather frightening when someone encounters spirit energy in their home or business, but depending upon the type of energy and phenomenon that is occurring, it may not be so bad as one might think. As a matter of fact, even if energy is validated as present by team or psychic investigation, sometimes you just have to learn to get along with it/them.

Depending upon whether light or heavy imprints are present in the environment, clients can experience a broad range of startling, even unnerving paranormal activity. Tolerance to, and understanding of the cause is very important to bring a sense of comfort and peace to the residents. This can be done by a preliminary investigation and/or house reading, and providing the client with information that will lower the threshold of fear.

Clients need to be made aware of the different types of energies and spirits, and gently reassured that although they may indeed have a spirit present, that does not mean they are in need of boarding up the house and vacating it. They also do not have to add a Demonologist or Priest to the speed dial feature.

Rest assured, spirit energies coexist with us and most are not even aware of it. Consider most energies comfortable in the environment and a natural part of the Universal life cycle.

For those harmless spirits that inhabit certain locations; they are there because it is comfortable to them. Think of a spirit that dwells in a particular spot as how you would feel about a favorite vacation spot, or comfortable home that brings you pleasant memories. You like to return to these places, in the same manner as do spirits. Since most spirits are far older than we are at present, these areas are theirs – they roamed the halls and streets when we were just a twinkle in our parents’ eyes.

Another little known fact is that spirits have a purpose, just as we do while we are in physical form. They are messengers, they are guardians, and even though they cross, it does not mean they cannot return periodically, especially to carry out their missions.

As for the flip side of the coin: if you do have a negative energy present, there are ways to properly address them/it. The bottom line is to never panic – never freak out and do not implement anything that can attract other energies, more specifically the negative type. That will only create further disruption in the environment that will have more of an adverse reaction on both you, and your spirit guest.

Simply put; give these spirits their space and let them do their thing. Just think of them as an invisible roommate. Do some reading on the time period they were in physical body, and indulge them with little trinkets of their time, such as music, artwork – or little goodies reminiscent of their walk. They will be thankful for your gestures.

Create harmony. Let them be.

Happy Friday The 13th!

Jill Marie

What You See…

…is what you get? No. Not really – especially when it comes to the paranormal.

Consulting for investigative teams, I am privy to it all; both amazing, as well as concocted evidence. I have been “tested” by some teams relative to my abilities and have earned a reputation that I call it like it is, and, that I am not a phony.

With that said, many times I have been asked to give my opinion as an investigator and Medium, relative to some questionable evidence. Some of which by first glance would cause concern, yet after careful analysis reveals nothing but a clever hoax.

Keeping in mind that my goal, as well as most others in this field (investigators and psychics) is to help clients, just as in any other field or profession; those with ulterior motives and corruptly driven agendas, tend to cast a bad light. This post is simply a means of spreading awareness about the potential pitfalls ‘we’ can face with evidence.

Due to sophisticated and evolving software programs that enable people to enhance, distort, or create disturbing images, it becomes more difficult to determine whether a picture has been ‘photoshopped’ however; more bothersome is the fact that some people blatantly resort to staging their photos, without use of high-tech enhancements. This aspect alone, is spreading like wild-fire.

I am not calling myself an expert, however; I have several years experience and formal education working in the creative arts arena (multi-medium), as well as have an eye for detail. This, along with my relying upon my abilities, has come in quite handy when making assessments, inclusive of evidence review.

A New Breed

There are many reality shows that love a good story, and some of us honestly, have just that, but I cannot help but note many whom have attempted to stage photos as a means of getting attention and of rapping on Hollywood’s reality-driven door. There now stands a new breed of “clients” and “investigators” whom are peddling fast-catching schemes to dramatically make entire rooms appear turned upside down by the Devil, himself.

Upon a quick look at a photo, along with a dramatic synopsis of what the clients or investigators have encountered, one would surmise that the a full-scale exorcism would be in line, to rid the demon of the premises. Further accounts of the history also tend to reveal gut-wrenching details of extremely bizarre phenomenon and possession-like symptoms. Being in a field where the emphasis should be on helping the client, I remain objective until I see other patterns, or red flags emerge. This is something that may be immediate, or something that may evolve with time.

I have reviewed photos of rooms that have been demolished – objects shattered into miniscule pieces, as well as neatly arranged in a fashion that would indicate a violent outburst of something satanic in nature. One thing is clear though; a fake, is a fake and the telltale signs can be found by making observation and utilizing basic research technique.

The Angle

We all like flattering camera angles when it comes to our photos, but seriously now, consideration to the angle of these satanic shots needs to be given. Some of these involve video footage, as well.

Example: One video clip that I have noticed, by which an (unnamed) Medium appears to have her entire head encased with a white glow during an investigation, blatantly indicates that angle of the person filming was critical to achieve this effect. The camera never goes close to the woman and remains at a distance. She is surrounded by people – other investigators – all of whom are very close, yet do not snap any shots of her during the time the camera is filming.

The videographer remains stationary and does not change camera angle. This is completely staged, yet was featured on an episode of a reality ghost story show. With a simple light precisely placed and filmed just as it was, without any effort by the camera person to move, etc. is a big indication of bogus evidence.

For still shots (photos), I have also been able to point out much of the same. Analysis of the phenomenon needs to be dissected in order to give it credibility. Shots that are taken from the most dramatic angle and staged accordingly, are also giveaways that the only thing going on is crafty camera work.

That’s Neat!

One of my cases involved concern that a team had about a case they were made aware of, yet not involved with. I was shown a series of photos taken at different times, on different dates – different rooms. The first series was taken by the client. The second series, by the investigative team. In both sets, the rooms were completely disheveled and made to look like something out of a horror movie.

Right away, I noticed the placement of furnishings. With the exception of a lamp, not one single item was broken, but neatly turned over, upside down, inside out and arranged in a way that indicative of being staged. This was the same for both sets of photographs. Funny how that works.

Not many people have the financing available to demolish and replace an entire room of furniture, for sake of a good shot. The photos were too tidy, despite the message they were attempting to convey. Certainly, some have taken a skeptic’s keen eye into consideration and have gone through great lengths to obliterate their furnishings in an effort to make it look real, but again, there are other signs that can – and do – indicate, all is not what it appears to be.

Convenient Battery Drains 

A frequently asked question that I will have in these cases is: Have you tried leaving digital recording equipment running for periods of time, to capture any of this total chaos while it happens?

The answers are usually the same:

• My batteries went dead.
• My camera/digital recorder/video equipment malfunctioned while it was happening.
• Passive: Whatever it was, demolished my equipment so I could not capture anything.
• Active: The demon took my camera and wrecked it, while I was filming and the video stopped working.

Also, another commonality with staged photos is that these entire room becomes destroyed when someone leaves the room, or while team members are elsewhere. There are a few times when entire teams with equipment, are standing in another room in the house, and not one person can manage to catch it. The Devil is tricky, but please…

The Facts

A few important facts need to be looked at when it comes to these photos. I do not think too much of an explanation needs to be given to them, so I will keep it brief. It is important for any legitimate investigator to take these into consideration, when researching such claims of physical, demonic activity.

• Many people (clients and investigative teams), are being bitten by the “I want to be famous” bug. Ghost hunting shows are what’s ‘in’ and people will do strange things in order to make a claim to fame.
• Some people may be having other issues and are seeking attention, without a deliberate quest for fame.
• Some people like to see if they can pull off a hoax.

Something which actually sheds quite a bit of light on destructive demonic forces, actually comes in lieu of my research that I am doing for my next book ‘Saints Sinners and Sacred Ground.’ This comes from speaking to clergy members, inclusive of Roman Catholic priests, whom all state that rarely – very rarely – if hardly at all, do they encounter legitimate claims of entire rooms being destroyed as a result of a demon. Almost every single case will involve some phenomenon but nothing on the scale of entire rooms being ransacked. Coincidentally, those that I have interviewed have also stated that they too, scrutinize photographic evidence and do conduct research into the claims when it comes to such cases.

These esteemed and respected officials do agree that demonic cases are rapidly on the rise, however; there is need for caution, on many levels, when handling such cases. Concurring that truly demonic forces are incredibly strong, there is an impact that is being noted across the spectrum of most faiths that indicates some claims by clients and teams that do not seek professional assistance by someone educated and trained in exorcism, is also a big give-away to the validity to a claim involving such destructive tendencies.

On that note, I have to elaborate that I would agree. Too many are oddly content with letting the alleged situation escalate and capture “evidence” instead of helping get rid of the problem. More troubling is the fact that I have been made aware of teams and clients working together, to stage cases in order to get on television. This hurts those whom are truly involved with a demonic force.

Also, tossing in the fact that for the times when my abilities as a Medium does not pick up on anything paranormal, or to the extent that it would be demonic, is another big gauge for me. Too many photos in recent months are tripping an alert, not only with me, but with others. Instead of demons, or hugely negative entities being sensed in these situations, what is being seen are desperate attempts to make a claim to fame under guise of a demon.

Bottom line: To those who review evidence; use a keen eye and exercise common sense. Of course, there are plenty of mind-blowing, legit photos that can indicate real activity, but do not be so eager to jump out of your chair and running for Holy Water when you see something so extremely wild and frightening, that you lose focus on debunking. This, combined by the popularity of shows that are seeking shocking evidence of paranormal activity, needs to be given consideration before rushing to judgment.

We all need to be open-minded and treat every client the same; with respect and dignity, however; ask questions, and listen to your gut. Chances are that if it’s too good to be true – it usually is, barring exceptional and extraordinary evidence that is legitimate. Attacks can – and will occur, but as investigators, use reasoning and look at the entire case, not limiting it to just one aspect of it.

I would like to leave you with an excellent quote, that we all need to apply to our lives in many facets:

“Observation–activity of both eyes and ears.” Horace Mann

Blessings

The Door Religion Often Closes But Spirituality Always Opens

I love book signings, as they always seem to be the springboard for some very interesting, and deep conversation. This past Saturday, was no exception.

A woman whom was in the store had approached me, and said she had been hearing “all about this book” pointing at, and  referring to ’207.’ Periodically, she would venture over to the signing table and talk for a bit, then leave and meander back to talk for some more.

Interestingly enough, from the first moment she came over to chat, I could immediately recognize the signs that she was torn about her feelings relative to my book and its subject matter. Later in the day, she validated my perception – and did that ever result in one, deep conversation.

Confessing that she had not yet read ’207,’ she asked about the house, and wanted to know more about what had transpired. She was specifically inquisitive as to how I came to deal with the effects of having lived in a haunted house possessed by a demon. She also made it clear that she believed in the Lord and had herself, overcome great hardship in the past. The more she talked about her journey, the more I could see something very profound bubbling within her, rising to the top: Something that she wanted to say, but was wrestling with how to get it out.

After briefly explaining how the tragedy at 207 shaped my spirituality, she seemed surprised, and replied by stating that it was “interesting” I was telling her how important faith and a strong sense of personal spirituality are, to get oneself through such a time of great pain – and profound evil. It was halfway through that part of the conversation, when she blurted out, “Well, you see, I was talking about your book with my Bible study group and they told me not to even speak to you, or go near you. They also told me I better not buy your book because I would be letting the Satan in.”

“Oh, really? Why is that?” I replied, rather surprised by such strong, and unjustified statements.

Basically, she explained that her Bible study group said that I was evil. Evil? Me? How absurd. Where was this judgment coming from, and on what grounds were they making this claim?

A very close friend of mine happened to be with me for the signing. She immediately jumped into the conversation and asked if these study group members had read the book, or knew me. The woman stated that nobody in the group would even look at the book, let alone read it, and that none of its members had ever met me. She then went on to say that she needed to ask God for protection to even approach me, and speak with me. My friend and I were stunned, to say the least.

Come to find out, this group is part of the “born again” mindset. Putting that into perspective, I knew this was part of the reason the woman was in the midst of a spiritual struggle to speak with me. It was clear that she was torn between the intrigue of my story of personal faith and survival, and the fact that her religion classmates had warned her of an unleashing of all sorts of calamity and evil, including being “seduced by the Devil” by merely coming to speak with me. This was when a remarkable situation unfolded – one so profound, that I will not soon forget how it touched me.

Continuing to ask additional questions, she suddenly realized (and blurted it right out), that I was not ‘evil’ but had such a profound sense of faith, that it was evident it had been the key to what saved my life on more than one occasion while living in 207. She surprised even herself, to openly admit this and within moments of her epiphany, said that she could not wait to go back to her study group and tell them how wrong they were; how inspired she was by my story and how strong my faith is.

In her own words the woman stated, “No, you aren’t evil, or bad, you have incredible faith in God. It’s clear that you are a believer and fought the evil through your faith. That is something we try to teach one another in our study group. Here they were telling me not to come talk to you because of the title to your book, and the content of it. You are really, really strong and this IS a story of faith and God overcoming something wicked – overcoming Satan.”

She continued to thank me for having patience with her throughout the few hours she would periodically wander over when time warranted. She also stated that she felt good to have made the choice to speak with me. Letting her know that she was not the only one who has mentioned this to me in the past, I did advise her that perhaps her reaction was the strongest and most heartfelt. Both of us were equally thankful for the opportunity to have met, and for me, I could not have been happier.

I told her that the message of the day was one of tolerance and education, on a spiritual level. I also asked her to take a good look within, and let this entire experience bring forth a sense of awareness that too often, some religion, seems to prevent. More significantly, I added that this ‘closed-door’ reaction only isolates people and creates fear, such as in her case, rather than an opening of the heart, mind and spirit.

I then told her that I admired her courage, and suggested she allow her personal sense of spirituality to guide her, no matter what she was being told. I reminded her that it was a sense of spirituality that brought her back and forth to my table, and what awakened her; she had tapped into a higher level of spiritual confidence.

I then took a moment to explain my philosophy about 207: No matter how many books that I sell, it is the inspiration my readers walk away with, that means more to me than anything else. Yes, I completely enjoy and am blessed to be making a living writing about my experiences, but the inspiration that my readers become empowered with, is truly priceless.

As I was leaving the store, I could not help but notice a shift; the woman was truly lighter in spirit. The worry once written all over her face, had been replaced with a new-found joy; even her body language was more confident.

She approached me one last time, and thanked me for my patience in listening to her as she grappled with something very personal. My friend and I could see the surprise in her face when I responded with, “No, thank you. Thank you for sharing your journey with me. This is what matters most to me; to be able to inspire someone and help them in whatever way is important to them.”

Meeting up with family and friends for dinner, we could not help but talk about what an amazing experience the day afforded on a spiritual level. From the store owner’s discussion and commentary about what he took away after reading ’207,’ to the woman who been embroiled in a spiritual tug-of-war with herself -  it was an incredible afternoon. In our opinions, the book and associated discussion, had again led to spirituality opening a door that had been closed by religion.

Also noteworthy of Saturday, is the fact that only once in seven months, has anyone suggested that I change the title and republish the book under a different name. Respecting this person’s opinion, I listened, but do not agree – and for this reason alone:

207′s title and subtitle may have rubbed some the wrong way, and admittedly has probably frightened a few off, yet my message is strong and has been well-received. The irony that someone (such as the lovely woman at the bookstore), had the courage to walk through that ‘closed door’ after having been told not to even speak with me because of a mere title and based on groundless cause, yet managed to learn a very important message about faith, means more than words can say. This one example shows that fear will keep you from growing if you let it, and in turn, that unwarranted fear, can prevent you from making very important self-discoveries that will nourish your soul and sense of spirituality. And that, is the message my story conveys: My title and subtitle will remain the same.

May you all continue to open doors. Thru this, the world will indeed, become a better place.

Blessings,

Jill Marie

Paranormal Investigation: Tact & Diplomacy

Through the wonderful and zany world of Facebook, an individual contacted me and was quite upset over a recent investigation that a paranormal team had done at their home. Given little background information, they reached-out to me in frustration not so much because the team did not find anything conclusive to indicate paranormal activity, but because two members of the team called the person “crazy.”

Questions & Answers

I would hope that teams are screening their clients and using a standard questionnaire prior to the investigation. Every adult member of the household should fill one out. It does not have to a multi-page document, but an intake should be conducted to get an idea of what may, or may not be, transpiring in the home. At times, I have had red flags present through the intake, that helped prior to the investigation. You never really know exactly what you are walking in to, until you arrive at the client’s home, and need to have some type of understanding what is going on before you step foot in the door. One must look at what is being said, and what is not being said, in order to see the big picture.

Develop an intake form that includes questions such as:

• Do you feel threatened in any way in your home? If yes, please explain.
• Who, or what, is threatening you?
• Have you ever suffered any injuries as a result of the activity? If yes, please explain.
• How has this experience (have these experiences) affected those whom live in your home? Examples can be personality changes, changes in habit, etc. Briefly describe.

Answers to these questions can shed light on some pretty powerful and significant circumstances. For some, the answers may help to pinpoint something like an oppression, or possession. On the other hand, it may indicate a more domestic issue. These by far, are the more complicated.

Every investigative team member will have a comfort level when dealing with such matters. Depending upon that level, one investigator may feel at ease with recommending the number to a domestic violence hotline, whereas another, may not. I cannot sit here and tell anyone what to do, other than be responsible and tactful, with what you find through the course of the investigation – and observations.

One, Two, Three …

Let’s say that you have interviewed the adult members, reviewed the intake forms and have completed an investigation. A few things need to be kept in mind when the initial conclusion has revealed nothing. The first is: Not all spirits/entities and paranormal activity is going to appear on-cue. As much as one may want it to, even in a valid haunting, a second, sometimes third investigation needs to be conducted to rule in, or out, if anything paranormal is present in the home. Secondly, and I know this is a big topic of debate but, strongly consider taking a Medium with you, to see what they may pick up on. Think of us as another type of ‘tool’ (I hate to use that term lol), that can assist in the investigation. Just as a repeat investigation may need to take place due to lack of evidence, a Medium may need to return on-site at another time, to pick up on energy shifts, etc. Thirdly, if there is sufficient reason to believe, be it through debunking claims, or lack of anything significant (orbs do not count in most cases!), then please refrain from calling the client names, or calling them “crazy” – even if you should personally think it to be the case.

Educate

Just as we may offer advice on how to handle a poltergeist, or a harmless residual, I do think that if we notice other factors that could be contributing to ‘odd behaviors’ with the clients, it is a good idea to be aware of your boundaries, as well as your area of expertise. It is not our duty to ‘police’ a client, but we are in a unique situation that can afford the opportunity to extend a minimal level of help to those in need. Do what you can within your comfort zone. If you cannot handle a situation, ask another team member who may have had more experience in that particular area, to step-in and help you.

You can also have a little fact sheet to hand out (or e-mail) the client when you conduct the intake. It is a perfect time to educate the client on a number of things that may help them better understand what is going on in their home. Make a mini dictionary of terms and use it to define intelligent and residual hauntings, disembodied spirits, apparitions, poltergeist, entities, etc. You would be surprised how many clients have no idea what these terms, or descriptions mean. Try to keep the definitions simple. A little bit of information, can go a long way.

Respect & Dignity

Maintain respect and dignity for the clients. One of the biggest things that I have noticed in research and through my own consultations/investigations, is that a startling large number of clients have a variety of family issues that are creating an adverse reaction on generic energy, in the home. I think that I have seen it all: Signs of domestic violence, drug and alcohol issues, mental health issues – it can be a very sad situation. Be the home haunted or not, it is our job to educate our clients and foster a sense of peace, regarding the paranormal.

Whether you conduct a face-to-face review of evidence, make a call, or send an e-mail, please use tact. The last thing that you want to do is send someone into a tizzy whom may be in the throes of a personal crisis, rather than a paranormal crisis. For those who stumble upon a investigation that produces no immediate evidence, feel free to copy the paragraph below and use or modify it, and keep it as a guide when making that final assessment.

“Thank you for the team’s opportunity to visit your home. Based on our investigation, we do not feel that paranormal activity is present. That does not mean it does not exist, however; at this moment in time, we have not found any evidence to indicate otherwise. We encourage you to contact us in the event you continue to have these experiences, or if it should escalate.”

Whatever you do, please avoid labeling a client, or calling them names. You can think what you want, but this field needs less of the sensationalized, commando approach, and more responsibility. Honesty, tact and diplomacy are important. Find a balance – and no name calling!

Blessings,

Jill Marie

So Not Cool Tallahassee Books-a-Million

This post follows yesterday’s, relative to the topic of self-published authors. As most of you have read, I am traveling to many locations throughout the year, to hold book signings and discussions for ’207.’ It’s been a learning experience to have to work around some private stores that will have nothing do with a self-published author. For reasons associated with self-publishing, it is also an experience with what needs to transpire in order to conduct signings at Books-a-Million, but nonetheless manageable, in between paperwork and a battery of phone calls. Simply put: Although my book, and some self-pub author books are available in BAM’s online store, the internal warehouse must then make the book available in-store by submitting paperwork. Everything has to go through home office in Birmingham, Alabama and go through an approval process before specific stores selected to host the signings, can order the book.

With this said, I must make a disclaimer prior to addressing the complete fustercluck that I have encountered relative to this process, by stating that I am a fan of Scott Tepperman from Ghost Hunters International. Scott recently self-published two books: Chasing Winter and Silent Morning. Both of his books are available through lulu.com. Side note:

Chasing Winter is an awesome book full of insightful, and original poetry. I have not yet read Silent Morning, but I am expecting it to be just as good as ‘Winter.’ For those interested, follow this link to his personal online bookstore here. Scott, and the rest of the GHI and Ghost Hunter crew are truly dedicated to their work in the paranormal investigative field, and in turn, happen to be my two favorite paranormal television shows.

By no means, am I trying to paint Scott in a bad light, nor stating he has done anything wrong (because he has not), but I am using a specific situation he is involved with, to illustrate the main point that I had discussed in my prior post: Self-Publish Authors: Censorship & Profiling.

So, what happened?

I have seen Scott’s tweets via Twitter, and Facebook advertisements, as well as website announcements that he is conducting signings at various locations. Knowing that he too, is a self-pub author I was interested to learn that he was holding a signing at the Tallahassee Books-a-Million on February 4th, 2012. Totally cool, yes,  but I was surprised he was able to book a signing so quickly, given the very recent release of his second book.  I then thought that perhaps I could do a few local signings at area BAM (Books-a-Million), as my fans have asked me to do.

I contacted the first local BAM and was advised that although my book is carried through their online store, it would have to be made available internally, before a signing could be initiated. The store manager advised me that she could see the book available via their online store, and had me contact BAM headquarters in order to begin paperwork, etc. At this time, I was advised that it was a process, but the fact ’207′ was available through BAM online, half the work had already been done. Wanting to help me, she then offered to do some legwork to see who she could speak with the get the ball rolling. Prior to ending the conversation, I was told that it is a fairly long-standing BAM corporate policy (past few years), that self-publish authors cannot hold signings until the following has occurred:

• The book is made available through the self-publish company (i.e. createspace.com, lulu.com).
• The book is then available and actively being sold through the BAM online store.
• Paperwork needs to be implemented and completed, then reviewed and approved for local BAMs to order the books internally for the signing. This applies specifically to the stores wishing to host the signing.
• No self-published author is allowed to conduct a signing REGARDLESS OF WHOM THEY ARE without following this protocol.
• No self-published author, or author is allowed to sell their books independently at a signing or otherwise, in a BAM store. Period. All books for signings must be made to order internally by the store management. It is a direct violation of their policy.

Well, that’s fine, but after hearing this, I asked the very helpful manager why it was possible for other (unnamed) self-publish authors to hold signings at other stores. She was dumbfounded and said she had no idea why, as again, it is a very stringent corporate policy that has been in effect since the self-publishing companies took off. It was then that I had inquired if there was a special consideration given in specific markets, and her response was “perhaps” – yet highly unlikely. She then stated if I was aware of those locations, I could give them a call and ask to hold a signing there. In her opinion, there was a miniscule possibility that this was the case.

Back to Scott Tepperman …

I knew that the Tallahassee store was hosting his signing, but wanted something closer to Tampa in order for my book fans to be able to easily take a jaunt to. I decided to then call Sarasota, Tampa and even the Orlando BAM stores. Each manager informed me of the corporate law and advised that if another BAM location was able to do this, then I should give it a shot. Sigh. OK – I would give it a shot.

Originally, I called the Tallahassee store and had verified through the Assistant Store Manager, that Scott was holding an event on 2/4. She stated that yes, he was. I then asked if his books were available to purchase in the store, and she stated, “no.” She then continued by stating he was holding a signing and bringing his own books that would be available to purchase through directly through Scott, via cash, or whatever other forms of payment he accepted. I thanked her and then called my personal manager and advised her that we should probably consider going up to Tallahassee and doing a signing with the store; she agreed.

I then called Tallahassee BAM and asked to speak with the same woman I had earlier (Assistant Store Manager). I explained that I am a self-published author and wanted to know how to go about holding a signing at their location. Advising her that my book was already available through BAM online, she said it was “no problem” even if it was not available for them to order internally, and that I could bring my own books but would be responsible for taking payments, etc. She then stated the following:

“We have done many book signings here at our store for self-published authors. We just provide the table and exposure to the author. The rest is up to them. You can come here and drop off flyers for your signing, or post signs in the store. Would you like to schedule a signing?”

I have to say that I was somewhat shocked. Asking her about the corporate policy, she stated that they have been doing these for a long while, and the policy did not apply to their store. Giving her my book’s ISBN, she accessed the book thru their online store and commented on the title. She then went on to say that her mother (the Assistant Store Manager’s) was a Paranormal Investigator and had also written a book, and held a signing at the store. Right up my alley so to say, I told her that I would like to hold the book signing at the store, and was given a tentative date for the second Saturday in February (the 11th). She then took my telephone number and said that she would run it by the GM and give me a call back after 3PM this afternoon. Cool beans! I was really happy to hear that the “special exception” to Tallahassee BAM would afford me the opportunity to do the signing. Calling my manager back with the happy news, we both thought it would be well worth the trip north to hold the signing. Be it known that at no time during this conversation, did I mention Scott’s name.

In the meantime, something led me to the BAM online store, whereas I always check for reader reviews: None, as of yet, but several on amazon.com and at least one on B&N. I then searched for Scott’s book(s) and realized that neither are listed as being available to purchase via BAM online (to the exact time of this posting). That did surprise me, but then again, Tallahassee is the exception.

By 4PM this afternoon I had not yet heard back from the Tallahassee BAM Assistant Manager, so I gave her a call. It was one of the weirdest conversations that I have had in a long while. She did apologize for not calling back but then stated (very coldly – the opposite of her prior demeanor), that she needed the name of my publisher. I reminded her that it is Createspace, as I am a self-published author. She then responded by telling me that unless I was represented by a publisher, and my book was available to order both online AND nternally, that they could not host my signing. Slightly shocked by this news, I responded by asking her how that was possible as she had earlier advised me it was not necessary to have a publisher. She then stated that this is “a new rule as of January 1, 2012″ and, that they are “not holding any signings for self-published authors after that date” without following the “newly established protocol.”

Why in the world I was even concerned about Scott’s signing was just pure gut reaction, but that was what crossed my mind as I asked what would happen with his upcoming event. After a long pause, she then stated the following, “Scott is not having a signing here. He is not selling any books and we are not selling his books. He is holding a conference here to talk about paranormal investigations.” She was quite angry to learn that I had known about the event and had seemingly called her on the BS excuse she was trying to pitch to me. I then stated that I thought it was “very interesting” to hear this, by which she then quipped (out of nowhere), “My mother EVEN has a publisher and if you don’t, then you can’t have your signing here.” Oh dear God. She did not just say that, did she?! Yes – she did. Again, the phone fell silent but this time, I was speechless. Where did that come from? The phone call was then ‘lost.’ Hello? Hello?

I wanted answers, after all, one moment she is painting the world with rainbows, unicorns and fluffy clouds, and the next moment she is talking to me in a tone that has the name of a future category 5 hurricane written all over it. Politely, I called the store back and after being placed on hold for several minutes, she took my call. I did ask her to explain the contradiction, by which she apologized for giving me incorrect information during my first call to her to organize the signing. It was clear that too much back-tracking was taking place, and by then I was so jaded that I thanked her for her time and told her that I hoped to be able to hold a signing at another BAM store at a future date, once ’207′ was made available internally.

Halfway through the bad news, my son, who was in his room during the conversations, could clearly hear the disappointment and confusion in my voice. While sitting at the table in awe of what had transpired during the last two conversations, he came out and said, “Mom, you have got to do something about that. This is totally not fair.”

Jumping online, I then sorted through Scott’s various social media sites (no, I’m not a stalker) to confirm it was indeed, a book signing – and found just that. As would any other proactive self-publish author, he has been advertising the event at the Tallahassee BAM, as a “book signing.” Nothing to the time that I write this post, is listed otherwise. Tweets, posts and events on his site specify “book signing” without any mention of a conference, discussion or likewise associated with paranormal investigations. As a matter of fact, several of Scott’s tweets, directly from his Twitter account (@ScottGHI) state that he will be “appearing at Books-A-Million in Tallahassee, FL on 2/4 for a book signing! Stop by a & pick up a copy! (twitpic).” BAM: You are digging a deeper hole. Poor Scott. Ugh.

That’s great for Scott; really – but the crap has got to stop with this self-published author excuse stuff. It is CLEAR that BAM in Tallahassee is trying to cover their butt. There is no reason to do so, when so many people like myself are in the same boat, trying to make a living. I cannot believe the pile of manure that the Assistant Store Manager at BAM has shoveled out. I also could not help but wonder how many self-pub authors have had signings, but like a beam of light flashing down from the Heaven’s above, that changed on January 1st, 2012 (hahaha – wrong) and now I cannot have a signing – and to boot, Scott’s signing isn’t a really signing, but now a “conference” and he is not selling any books at the store. Hey, Scott: Do you know that you’re having a conference, not a book signing?

Tallahassee BAM: I am flabbergasted and disgusted. I really have nothing more to say, other than I am saddened that this is going on.

Scott Tepperman: Seriously – Best of luck! I know your book(s) will do well. Knock their socks off! Lucky you to be one of the exceptions to this ‘special’ store. Before I forget – here is Scott’s website.

I’m finished with this rant. I have to plan my next event.

Blessings,

Jill Marie