This article pertains to those who live in environments experiencing mild-to-moderate paranormal activity. It is meant as a guide of sorts, to help deal with lightweight spooks, and mildly negative energies.
Relative to hauntings, the best approach is acceptance. Simply said, we all should learn to live with the dead, rather than lose our sh*t over a benign, ethereal visitor. The physical world we inhabit is chock-full of them, so patience and inclusion (for the kinder lot) is mandatory.
If you can pinpoint the source of a haunting, try adding period-correct elements into your home or space. Playing period-specific music can also help give a nod to your otherworldly guests. Think of these gestures as ghostly gifts of appreciation.
The Singapore Theory (or Theory of Familiarization) is often used by paranormal investigators as a means to draw out, or create activity in a space. I have utilized this approach many times and have found that it can actually reduce activity.
It’s a slippery slope, as on one hand, these methods can stir the pot, yet on the other, it can soothe the soul(s) inhabiting the space. For sake of trying to appease the dead, it doesn’t hurt to give it a whirl and see if things settle down.
Claim Your Space
Regardless, define the space as yours. If you believe, or have suspected that your ‘guest’ may have lived in (or around) the space at one time or another, verbally state your willingness to share the space IN PEACE – sans games or shenanigans.
Establishing a boundary can work. It may take a few tries with varying degrees of firmness before you will notice a difference. The best approach is to be strong in stance, yet polite, and increase tone and severity of your statements over time, should prior, courteous attempts go to the wayside.
For purpose of balance and respect (only applicable for the gentler souls inhabiting your space) consider placing a boundary on a single room, rather than an entire home. No need to cop a ‘tude and p*ss off your specters. Again; harmony.
The Sage Game
Saging will only help to rid negativity and does not banish spirits. It’s worth the effort if you’re feeling negative energy coming from the living, the dead, the undead, or just in general.
One of the most important factors about saging is to do so when weather and climate permits, as there is a need to leave the doors and windows open for an extended period of time. Avoid using fans or electrical devices to blow the smoke out.
Prior to a “proper saging” clean and organize your space. Clutter and uncleanliness breeds negativity for both the living and the dead.
Extreme care needs to be taken during a saging, as you are dealing with an active, burning, dried plant. Waving the sage and carrying it throughout a space needs to be done with caution in order to prevent embers or sparks from starting a fire
It’s also important to take any respiratory issues into consideration. Saging creates a tremendous amount of smoke and is not a recommended activity in the presence of people with compromised breathing issues.
If anyone should have a respiratory condition (including chest congestion from a cold, etc.) it is advised to have them leave the space until all residual smoke has naturally dispersed from the environment, post-saging. This activity should be performed by an adult, only.
Items Needed To Sage
1. A bundled sage stick. Sizes range from small (2-3”), medium (4-6”), up to a large bundle (7-10”). *The number of people you will sage, as well as the size of your space, will dictate how much to use. Note: I only use bundled sage to avoid excessive embers from taking flight during the process.
2. Smudge pot or large shell to catch and contain embers.
3. A white candle.
4. Matches to light the sage and candle.
5. Comfortable chair.
6. Fresh flowers or green, leafy plants for post-sage.
Secure any pets and open everything (seriously). If possible, you should open doors, windows, drawers, closets, cabinets, etc. PRIOR to the saging. You want to impact the entire space with the smoke (NOT THE EMBERS) during the process. Use a smudge pot, or shell, to collect and contain any falling sage embers.
How to sage an individual:
1. One at a time, have each person you wish to sage, stand up in front of the chair.
2. Begin by stating what you want to bring the individual via the saging experience (peace, positive energy, good health, etc.)
3. After stating your intentions, ask the person to sit down in the chair. Have the person extend their legs and feet outwards, while sitting securely in the chair.
4. Move the sage smudge stick clockwise under the feet and proceed upwards, circling the legs, towards the upper body.
5. Once the bottom of the feet have been saged, have the person stand for the remainder of the saging.
6. Continue to move the sage stick in a clockwise manner, circling their body upwards, towards the top of the head.
7. When you reach the crown of the head, once again, state your initial intentions (peace, positive energy, etc.) and ask for all negativity to be removed from and around the person and the environment. Ask the Divine to seal the person with protection, positive energy, thoughts and vibrations.
8. Repeat the same for anyone else wishing to be saged.
9. Light a white candle and recite a blessing. White light is the most pure and protective you can have, therefore, using a white candle bolsters the positive energies associated with protection.
You may use the following blessing, or find another that speaks to you:
“By lighting this candle and performing this saging, we ask the Divine (God, the Universe etc.) to restore love, harmony, peace, and prosperity to this home and space.
May (resident names, including pets) be blessed with good health, happiness, success, and abundance of all things positive. May light take over darkness, may love and compassion replace hatred and negativity.
We ask that this home be a sacred dwelling for (residents names, including pets). We ask that those who visit this home and space feel peace and love; today and always.
(Light the candle) By lighting this candle and performing this saging, we state that this home is now fortified and shielded against intrusion of all harm, illness, injury, and misfortune.
Thank you for bringing your light, love and energy into our hearts, rooms, this space, as well as all present and future endeavors. With tremendous gratitude and honor, we give you thanks and commence all positive actions of thought, heart and intent from this moment, forward.”
Note: Extinguish the candle after each person is saged. Repeat the above steps for each person.
Saging an entire space:
1. Begin at the front door after saging each person.
2. Move in clockwise position, from bottom to top (if more than one floor).
3. Sage the entire space, inclusive of closets, cabinets, drawers, etc.
4. Repeat the same affirmations and intentions as during the personal saging. Do so throughout the entire space.
5. Return to front door and give thanks.
6. Allow the smoke to dissipate on its own. The length of time depends upon the size of the space, as well as the weather.
7. Do not speak of anything negative (people or events) while doing the blessing as you are clearing the space.
8. Refrain from any arguments or negative emotions for 24-48 hours.
9. Light the candle and leave burning in a safe location for the post-saging celebration.
10. Fill the house with positive thoughts. Fresh flowers, green, leafy plants and relaxing or upbeat music is also helpful in restoring harmony.
For heavier, negative energies, it’s perfectly acceptable to think about what may be or is going on in your space. Keep in mind that some energies behave like children: it tends to crave negative attention.
Heavier energies can cause rifts between the living. They are also adept at creating chaos. Don’t let it/them divide you. Overthinking will only give the energies more power.
Obsessing can also create a situation whereas a negative energy can invade the living, human spirit. Your relentless attention and obsession serves as food for soul-hungry nasties.
At some point, there may be a need to consult with a paranormal team, and/or psychic medium. An experienced and reputable team or spiritual adviser can provide insight and help alleviate worry – especially if it’s unnecessary.
Do some research when going this route. There should be no reason to provide payment for services to investigate your space. Many investigators and advisors (myself included) do not charge for these services.
One thing I suggest to clients who have a difficult time letting go of a less than pleasant experience involving a haunting, is to visualize a box and put those thoughts in a box. Sound kind of silly? Think again. It works.
Once you have placed those thoughts in the box, visualize putting a lid on the box, and then placing it in a trash can. Next, visualize taking out the trash, followed by the garbage truck taking it to the dump, far, far away from you and your space.
There have also been times I have recommended that clients literally buy a small box and visualize/concentrate putting their thoughts relative to the experience(s) into the box. Similar to the above, they are to place a lid on the box and take it outside to the trash. Be done with it.
Whatever you do, don’t panic. Give things some time and repeat the above steps and suggestions, if needed.