Pain, Emptiness and Void Filling

Lunchtime Wisdom

It’s easy to fill a void, yet caution is needed to ensure critical mistakes will not be made when trying to quell pain by finding a replacement. Pain and frustration, which can lead to void-filling, be it with people, material objects, food, pets, and so forth, can – and often will – create further confusion and unfortunate consequences.

Quick fixes and void filling are temporary solutions to personal pain and emptiness. Exercise extreme caution before committing to anything, or anyone you bring into your life during such times. One must consider not only the personal impact this will have, but also the issues it may create for all whom you involve.

I understand this is not pleasant to read. Regardless, it is important to acknowledge.

Pain and loss are difficult enough. You must have faith that problem-solving and self evaluation will bring resolve to the pain; not the things, people and creatures you bring in to distract you from the discomfort and emotions you are feeling.

It takes time to clearly evaluate the situation. That said, patience is also a key trait when searching for meaningful answers.

Learn to avoid selfish behaviors. Unfortunately, pain often results in selfish acts. This tends to be one of the more damaging aspects of void filling. Not only can you unknowingly harm yourself, you can ruin relationships and cause tremendous pain to those who truly care about you.

Too often, pain causes a person to inflict pain in others. Be the words and/or actions intentional or otherwise, always watch yourself. Do not let pain speak for you; simply speak of your pain and express yourself in way that facilitates healing.

If you find yourself saying hurtful things to another as a result of your own pain, kick the ego card to the curb and don’t ever be ashamed to apologize. Chances are, and if the person who bore the brunt of your unkind words and/or actions truly cares for you, they will understand and know that pain is getting the best of you.

Each of these behaviors apply not only to the physical, but also to the spiritual. Reconcile with yourself and work thru the pain. Steer clear of void filling and recognize that your path will more than likely become littered with more obstacles and baggage if you hastily look for replacements. 

Be responsible. Grow from the pain. Don’t fill it with people and things. I speak from the heart, soul, and . . . experience. 


Mother’s Day Words

She is one of the most intelligent, brave, compassionate and uniquely funny women I know. She has been my life-long rock and inspiration, teaching me lessons in courage, patience, friendship and faith in a higher power.

Over the years, other nicknames have come and gone, but terms of endearment such as Daisy Sweet Cheeks and Feebs have seemingly stuck. She is one of the sweetest humans I know, and her sense of humor in jesting along with these titles (Feebs – short for Feeble), only makes her sparkle all the more.

She has battled two cancers, two strokes and is living with a grave heart condition, yet hasn’t missed a beat. I am incredibly proud of her fierce determination and fighting spirit.

She worked almost a half century as a Registered Nurse (until retirement); her commitment to the community reaching beyond commendable. Anyone in her care was not only lucky to have her as a nurse, but little did they know she was their silent angel who quietly prayed for her patients on a daily basis, often falling asleep in her recliner after a long shift, asking God to watch over them.

She is a hero. On The night of June 28th 1989, she positioned herself to shield my son and I from the fire of a loaded, .12 gauge shotgun. Her quick thinking and training literally saved our lives despite the fact my late husband turned the gun on himself. (Detailed in my book ‘207’) She will tell you that she didn’t think twice and did what she says any mother would do to protect her children.

She was my strength as I endured one of the most painful times if my adult life. Widowed, working and left raising my son, she made sure everything would be okay. I am happy to say despite the tragedy; it was.

She, is my mother, or Mama, as I love to say. My feelings go beyond word and spirit. She is a true testament of love in so many amazing ways. I am incredibly grateful and blessed to have her in my life. She is one special woman.

Wishing my Mama, as well as all mothers and those who wear the shoes of one, regardless of gender and including those who have furry children, a blessed and very Happy Mother’s Day.

Thank you, Mama. I love you😘💕💐❤️🙏🏻


Universal HEALING Meditation & Prayer

Universal HEALING Meditation & Prayer

Sunday, June 26th 2016

Duration: 15 minutes+

The purpose of this meditation and prayer session is to raise the energy of the Universe by taking a short period of time out of one evening per month to collectively focus on creating positive energy in our lives, and for the world. The more people that join this session, the higher the level of positive vibration.

An important part of the Universal HEALING Meditation & Prayer session is the acronym for HEALING:








Reflect upon each word; absorb them with your body, mind and soul. Allow these peaceful thoughts to radiate from you, and share them with the world.

It all starts with you! Imagine the change that has resulted from the focus and efforts of one, let alone an army of prayer warriors dedicating time together to make a positive change.

Additional tips on meditation to follow prior to the upcoming session. No special items needed.

Animal Totems

Animal Totems

Listen to what crosses its path with you in nature. From animals, to reptiles, fowl and insects, a seemingly rare encounter may hold significant personal and spiritual relevance.

Animal totems and their like, have been something dear to me and instilled in me, by my grandmother Marie. As most are aware, my Native American ancestry is an important part of my spirituality.

Whenever you take notice of a creature that is normally not found in your path, or you begin to see one frequently, the magic and spiritual significance of that creature is a message for you. Nature is nudging you to seek an intricate piece of the Spiritual Self that is need of attention.

There are a variety of books and online resources available to research your animal totem. My favorite book is “Animal Speak – The Spiritual & Magical Powers of Creatures Great & Small” by Ted Andrews. It’s a great reference that lends not only the significance of hundreds of different totems, but shares the history of each in association with Native American culture. The book also surveys a lovely selection of species, specific subtypes and breeds.

For those who wish to take it a step further, Animal Speak also provides instruction to call your Spirit Animal. This involves music (i.e. drumming), meditation and chant ideas.

Notice a random bear wandering through your yard, or mysterious dragonfly now seemingly following you at every turn? These creatures have been put in your path for reason. Don’t ignore the moment; take time to seek out the lesson it has been sent to teach you.🐢


Last Dance: Purple Rain

Interesting fact . . .

Just after Christmas 1987, my late husband Jim and I (from the book ‘207’) had found out we were expecting my oldest son. I volunteered to be the DD for the year end festivities and celebration of our #blessing. Gathering with a bunch of pals, we decided to head over to a dance club and ring-in the new year. We had so much fun!

The last time I danced with Jim before his death was just moments after the ball dropped in Times Square, ushering in 1988. The song we danced to happened to be both of our favorites: Purple Rain.

It’s amazing how so many connect to his music. For those of us that share the love for his craft, our private moments have been woven into an enormous, public celebration of life for an artist who touched so many and left this part of the journey all too soon.

Prince and his music will always hold a special spot in my heart, especially relative to Jim💜

‘Til Death Do Us Part

‘Till death do us part . . . 

A soul’s love does not pay attention to boundaries such as death. It is infinite – timeless.

Countless people I know and have conducted readings for can relate to this sentiment. Although the physical journey ceases upon death, many continue the deep love affair that was born between two souls during the physical journey. 

Considering this to be true for ALL partners (marriage and relationship equality), love is a true and very tangible emotion that surpasses real time. This holds true even when a partner grieves after the loss of their beloved and later struggles with moving on. 

I often hear, as well as have asked the very same questions: How long do I wait to find a companion? Will my loved one accept I am moving on? How can I move forward in life when I miss my loved one so much?

Begin by accepting the fact that every human being is different, as is the relationship they experienced. Do not worry about how long it will take. Avoid gauging time.

As for acceptance: Rather than feeling you are doing an injustice to your loved one by making progress – finding physical love and companionship after a loss – please know that a truly loving Spirit will not (and does not) hold it against you. 

How long will this love and associated grief last? Spirit knows the love you share is a truly timeless connection with an exquisitely personal and unique bond forged during the physical life cycle. Love, and the spiritual relationship, do not stop at death, nor does their passing minimize or make your love any less than what it was beforehand.

Try not to harbor feelings of guilt about reaching a point to take steps to find comfort. Hold close the memories of your beloved. Spirit does not want to see you suffer in silence or abstinence from happiness and newfound love. They DO understand and can even guide you towards achieving both.

”Till death do us part’ is incorrect from a spiritual standpoint and from the perspective of love. Be grateful for the endless and infinite ways your souls have connected and in turn, be at peace knowing it continues. 

Allow yourself to grieve, yet be mindful that it is okay to love again. Without a doubt, you can maintain a special and sacred love in spirit, while making a new life for yourself. Consider the notion that any truly caring, new partner should freely be respectful of that love and relationship and not ever try to compete with it.

Spirit knows you are not replacing them. Your relationship was literally a once in a lifetime opportunity. Cherish that love – and be cognizant that Spirit knows you are simply continuing on with living❤️

Keep Going

Keep going . . . 

You have been bestowed a unique life full of challenges and accomplishments. No matter how insignificant or grand the lesson, they are critically meaningful to your Spiritual Self. Never lose sight of the fact that no matter how unfair, unpleasant, or painful, you must continue on with your voyage; your life story.  

If you suddenly find yourself off-roading, take a moment to look around you. You are meant to be exactly where you are, regardless of the randomness.

Embrace these moments and LIVE the experience; breathe each breath as a gift. Never take the day, or those whose paths you cross for granted. 

And, no matter what . . . 

Keep going😘