Month: May 2016

Pain, Emptiness and Void Filling

Lunchtime Wisdom

It’s easy to fill a void, yet caution is needed to ensure critical mistakes will not be made when trying to quell pain by finding a replacement. Pain and frustration, which can lead to void-filling, be it with people, material objects, food, pets, and so forth, can – and often will – create further confusion and unfortunate consequences.

Quick fixes and void filling are temporary solutions to personal pain and emptiness. Exercise extreme caution before committing to anything, or anyone you bring into your life during such times. One must consider not only the personal impact this will have, but also the issues it may create for all whom you involve.

I understand this is not pleasant to read. Regardless, it is important to acknowledge.

Pain and loss are difficult enough. You must have faith that problem-solving and self evaluation will bring resolve to the pain; not the things, people and creatures you bring in to distract you from the discomfort and emotions you are feeling.

It takes time to clearly evaluate the situation. That said, patience is also a key trait when searching for meaningful answers.

Learn to avoid selfish behaviors. Unfortunately, pain often results in selfish acts. This tends to be one of the more damaging aspects of void filling. Not only can you unknowingly harm yourself, you can ruin relationships and cause tremendous pain to those who truly care about you.

Too often, pain causes a person to inflict pain in others. Be the words and/or actions intentional or otherwise, always watch yourself. Do not let pain speak for you; simply speak of your pain and express yourself in way that facilitates healing.

If you find yourself saying hurtful things to another as a result of your own pain, kick the ego card to the curb and don’t ever be ashamed to apologize. Chances are, and if the person who bore the brunt of your unkind words and/or actions truly cares for you, they will understand and know that pain is getting the best of you.

Each of these behaviors apply not only to the physical, but also to the spiritual. Reconcile with yourself and work thru the pain. Steer clear of void filling and recognize that your path will more than likely become littered with more obstacles and baggage if you hastily look for replacements. 

Be responsible. Grow from the pain. Don’t fill it with people and things. I speak from the heart, soul, and . . . experience. 


Mother’s Day Words

She is one of the most intelligent, brave, compassionate and uniquely funny women I know. She has been my life-long rock and inspiration, teaching me lessons in courage, patience, friendship and faith in a higher power.

Over the years, other nicknames have come and gone, but terms of endearment such as Daisy Sweet Cheeks and Feebs have seemingly stuck. She is one of the sweetest humans I know, and her sense of humor in jesting along with these titles (Feebs – short for Feeble), only makes her sparkle all the more.

She has battled two cancers, two strokes and is living with a grave heart condition, yet hasn’t missed a beat. I am incredibly proud of her fierce determination and fighting spirit.

She worked almost a half century as a Registered Nurse (until retirement); her commitment to the community reaching beyond commendable. Anyone in her care was not only lucky to have her as a nurse, but little did they know she was their silent angel who quietly prayed for her patients on a daily basis, often falling asleep in her recliner after a long shift, asking God to watch over them.

She is a hero. On The night of June 28th 1989, she positioned herself to shield my son and I from the fire of a loaded, .12 gauge shotgun. Her quick thinking and training literally saved our lives despite the fact my late husband turned the gun on himself. (Detailed in my book ‘207’) She will tell you that she didn’t think twice and did what she says any mother would do to protect her children.

She was my strength as I endured one of the most painful times if my adult life. Widowed, working and left raising my son, she made sure everything would be okay. I am happy to say despite the tragedy; it was.

She, is my mother, or Mama, as I love to say. My feelings go beyond word and spirit. She is a true testament of love in so many amazing ways. I am incredibly grateful and blessed to have her in my life. She is one special woman.

Wishing my Mama, as well as all mothers and those who wear the shoes of one, regardless of gender and including those who have furry children, a blessed and very Happy Mother’s Day.

Thank you, Mama. I love youπŸ˜˜πŸ’•πŸ’β€οΈπŸ™πŸ»

Universal HEALING Meditation & Prayer

Universal HEALING Meditation & Prayer

Sunday, June 26thΒ 2016

Duration: 15 minutes+

The purpose of this meditation and prayer session is to raise the energy of the Universe by taking a short period of time out of one evening per month to collectively focus on creating positive energy in our lives, and for the world. The more people that join this session, the higher the level of positive vibration.

An important part of the Universal HEALING Meditation & Prayer session is the acronym for HEALING:








Reflect upon each word; absorb them with your body, mind and soul. Allow these peaceful thoughts to radiate from you, and share them with the world.

It all starts with you! Imagine the change that has resulted from the focus and efforts of one, let alone an army of prayer warriors dedicating time together to make a positive change.

Additional tips on meditation to follow prior to the upcoming session. No special items needed.